Had words with a homeless guy today. That's never fun, but this guy really needs to be slapped around a little — where's Jimmy Cagney and Joan Blondell when you need 'em?
"Hey, mister, got any spare change?" ... "Spare change?" ... "Can you help me with some spare change?"
This is what the Mayor means by 'aggressive panhandling'. And I hate the Mayor, by the way, like any good San Franciscan should, but when he's right, he's right.
I live near Union Square, where this man does his panhandling, so this same (presumably) homeless man was in my face today for maybe the fifth time this month, and I unloaded on him.
"Hey, I gave you some change a couple of times, but that doesn't mean I've adopted you as my son, and it doesn't mean I'm an easy mark every time you see my face. Do I look like J D Rockefeller? Well, I'm not. I'm a poor schmoe, and I'm tired of having you up and in my face every time I walk down Valencia Street. So give somebody else your endless whiney-eyed hard luck story, because I've heard it from you so many times I've got your whole shtick memorized. The answer is no. No today, no tomorrow, no the day after that and every day of your life. Capeesh?"
Was I too harsh?
All I know is, this jerk ain't getting nothing from me except a fist in the face if he doesn't back off.
And this sounds downright Republican, but I'm not giving to beggars any more. Effective immediately, if you want spare change from me, you've got to make me smile. I might have change for the robot-guy on Powell Street, or Mr Good Humor on O'Farrell, for the kazoo serenade on Mission, for the drum and violin duet in the BART station, or for any mendicant with a semi-clever line, but I've got no more change for someone asking for help 40 hours a week.
If I give you some money, I want to feel I'm actually touching a human soul, not just supporting another empty-eyed crackhead. See, the competition is getting pretty crowded, and everyone on the street wants what little money I have, so rattling tin cans and looking like a loser just won't cut it any more.
From Pathetic Life #1
Friday, June 10, 1994
This is an entry retyped from an on-paper zine I wrote many years ago, called Pathetic Life. The opinions stated were my opinions then, but might not be my opinions now. Also, I said and did some disgusting things, so parental guidance is advised.
Addendum, 2021: I am embarrassed that I wrote the above, and horrified that I said what I said all those years ago, to someone who was wounded already. I disavow all of it. If I knew where that poor, hungry spare-changer was today, I'd apologize to him, and take him to breakfast at the diner.
Every word I wrote is wrong, but I'm posting it anyway, because what happened happened. Honesty was the whole point of my Pathetic Life project. I did this stupid shit, wrote about it, and I guess I even thought it was amusing, so I'm posting it. No fair hiding from myself.
I was me in some ways back then, but politically I was a jackass. Let me tell you why, and what healed me:
When I was young and stupid, I read some books by Ayn Rand, which left me warped. I called myself a libertarian, which is a five-syllable synonym for ass. For too many years I believed, really believed, that wealth is earned, and that most poor people wouldn't be poor if they just worked harder. That's where my head was in 1994 — snuggled up deep in my own ass.
In the words of John Cleese, "I got better," and most of the credit goes to my wife, Stephanie. We met a few years after these events, and to say she made me a better man is an exponential understatement; she made me a man, that's all. With her example, I learned about compassion, kindness, and just generally being a decent human being. Thank you, Steph, forever. And I miss you.
I didn't magically morph into Mahatma Gandhi, but I'm not the person I was on June 10, 1994. For one thing, I never give spare change to the destitute any more — instead I give spare cash, usually $1s, sometimes a $5 bill. And I wouldn't begrudge anyone who recognized me as a giver and asked me to give again, because it only makes sense — who's a more logical person to ask for help, than the man who helped you a week ago?
Today I'd say, "Here, stranger, have another couple bucks, and have a hug, and I hope it helps."
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